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Date(s) - 02/10/2024
5:30 am - 6:15 am
Site Q - Tarnished
Location
The Fortress
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One part Fitness, one part Intellectual, mix in some Fellowship and you have a calorie burn for the body that fuels the soul. Throw some weight in a ruck sack, head off on a 2-3 mile hike while your mind is led through Q source material straight from the creators of F3 and other leadership development programs.
Leadership Ruck – Concentrica
Pax:
Deliverance (Q)
Photon
Flo
Oil Change
Valiant
Van Wilder
Tarnished
Gepetto
Raven
FNG Ty Cook, who was given the F3 name of Slag
Leadership Ruck on the concept of Concentrica. Excellent discussion, so much so that I didn’t get to all my questions. Here are my complete notes:
Concentrica
Today we are looking at our 2nd F of Fellowship
The world uses the image of a scale, that we must have a “work-life balance”
F3 proposes an Archery Target to represent our relationships (Pax Guess…)
● The ‘M – marriage or wife’ is the center
● ‘Children’ are the next ring, followed by the…
● ‘Shield Lock’
● ‘Whetstone’ (mentor/mentee)
● ‘Mammon’ (work)
Question 1: What does the F3 model of the Concentrica look like? What would your model of the Concentrica look like?
“On his back the HIM carries a quiver of arrows that represent the finite time and energy he has been given in his life…he has no idea how many arrows he has been provided, so he shoots each as if it were his last, aiming at the center of his Concentrica in order to have the most IMPACT and avoid committing relationship malpractice.” Q 1.5
Question 2: Are you hitting the center of your Target? Where are most of your time and energy arrows landing?
“At the bullseye of the Q’s Concentrica is his M, his relationship with his wife, the one upon which all of his other relationships are founded. The M is the HIM’s transformative relationship because through it he becomes something new–legally, practically and spiritually. Before marriage, a man is an “I”, but afterwards he is part of an “Us”. The HIM aims most of his arrows at the M because if that fails, the rest of his relationships will fail as well.” Q 1.5
Question 3: Is this true? Does a failed marriage cause the failure of all other Concentrica relationships?
Accelerating the M requires both skill and love (key points)
1) Maintenance = Deceleration. You are either Accelerating or Decelerating.
“If you think you are maintaining, you are actually Decelerating because there is no Status Quo . That is the myth of the plateau. Thus, the HIM never thinks of maintaining his marriage. He always focuses on Accelerating it.” Q 1.5
Question 4: Is your marriage Accelerating or Decelerating? How so?
2) There is no 50 Yard Line. “Halfway is not good enough when it comes to the M. It is not a football game where husband and wife meet at the fifty yard line for the coin flip. The HIM must drive the ball the full length of the field and stay in his wife’s red zone, regardless of whether she even breaks the huddle.” Q 1.5
Question 5: Are there areas where you have to take it the full length? Where your wife takes over?
3) Your Wife is not your Best Friend. “She is made for a much higher purpose. There is a pedestal in the life of the HIM that is set out for his wife and there is no room on it for his best buddy (that relationship is actually two more rings out on
the HIM’s Concentrica)” Q 1.5
Question 6: Is your Wife your Best Friend?
4) Joy trumps Happiness. “Happiness is a transitory positive feeling governed by mere external circumstance. Happiness is a full belly–it goes away when you get hungry again. In contrast, Joy is not so ephemeral. It is a permanent state of hopeful satisfaction that is unaffected by external happenstance…It requires a long view, well past the toils and triumphs of any given day. The HIM is a Joyful man under any and all circumstances because his vision is cast at a point well beyond the day before him. His focus is on the end and beyond.” Q 1.5
Question 7: How do you foster Joy (permanent, hopeful, satisfaction in your
Marriage?